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Don't compromise because you're embarrassed.

   On a text-based website, I heard a radio program about not being so kind to others that you forget yourself. I can't describe the content of the program, but I understood the meaning: don't be so kind to others that you forget yourself. Of course, what I want to describe in this article is not entirely that meaning. What I want to say is, don't accept what others want to express to you just because you feel embarrassed or awkward.   In fact, similar things often happen to me and my friends. A friend borrowed something very important from me, and because I felt awkward refusing, I agreed, only to find it very inconvenient in my life later. Another friend felt awkward refusing her family's arrangements, and in the end, she was very unhappy and even got scolded by her family.   Thinking back, I used to be like that too, often unable to refuse others' requests because I felt awkward, which often led to unpleasant situations and made me very unhappy.   The reason I wa...
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Don't think of yourself as someone special, and don't underestimate others.

    The most pitiful people in the world are those who live in painful memories of the past, constantly tormenting themselves.    Time flies, and as the saying goes, "There's only one me in the world, a unique me. If you lose me, you won't find me even if you search on Baidu. Maybe you're awesome, but I might not care about you!" In a world of heroes, masters clash, and there's always someone stronger. True masters fight three rounds before each other. Therefore, without experiencing a period of loneliness, obscurity, darkness, and unbearable hardship, one cannot claim "heaven rewards diligence." Proximity breeds advantage;    books are the wellspring of human civilization's evolution. Don't judge people too harshly; a little ignorance is bliss. Water that's too clear has no fish, and a person who's too discerning has no followers. There's no need to exploit your friends to protect your own interests. If you remove all the quills ...

There's a saying I often say

 There's a saying we often hear: "Youth is made wonderful by struggle." Indeed, how can youth be wonderful without struggle? Youth is a beautiful, blossoming period. During this time, we need sweet love, warm family affection, beautiful friendships, a romantic and elegant lifestyle, a sunny and optimistic attitude, and the courage to overcome all difficulties… but even more importantly, we need struggle. Struggle is the 1, while family, friendship, love… are all 0s. With the 1, the more 0s there are, the more beautiful youth becomes. Without the 1, the 0s are meaningless symbols. Some say that struggle is too hard, and that eating, drinking, and having fun are the best things. But that's not true. Eating, drinking, and having fun may seem wonderful, but if you indulge in these activities during your youth, you'll achieve nothing when you grow up. Struggle may bring hardship, but if you struggle in your youth, you won't feel regret when you grow up; instead, yo...

Do you agree that "wisdom comes from hands"?

   "Wisdom Comes from Hands" is an article I came across today in a book I bought before, *Youth Digest*. The author is named Ye Qingcheng, but I don't know much about the author.   Undoubtedly, the title "Wisdom Comes from Hands" attracted me, motivating me to read on. At the same time, I wondered why the author believed that wisdom comes from hands.   The article tells the following story, which I'll briefly recount:   One winter, when temperatures were below -20 or -30 degrees Celsius, the author and a tour guide were watching the Northern Lights in Kiruna, Sweden. Walking through the forest, they noticed small wooden cabins everywhere. The author's praise of the cabins led the tour guide to tell him about Sweden's standards for talent and share his own story.   Apparently, in Sweden, students' hands-on abilities are cultivated from primary school, with courses in woodworking, handicrafts, sewing, cooking, home economics, and more. Those with ...

The only way to learn Chinese well

   "Learning Chinese shouldn't be too utilitarian; simply doing test papers won't get you high scores," says Teng, a senior teacher at Jinhua No. 1 Middle School.   The only way to learn Chinese is through consistent reading and writing. Read some books every day, and write one or two pieces a week, in any format. Learning Chinese this way will yield significant results.   Slow down your pace in learning Chinese. Should Chinese learning start in elementary school? To learn Chinese well, follow these three points:   1. Emphasize accumulation and cultivate good habits. Utilize every spare moment for reading and writing. Children generally have good reading habits in elementary school; don't let this stop in middle school. Continuous accumulation will lead to natural success.   2. Plan your Chinese learning. Decide which works to read and which articles to write at each stage. Set requirements for yourself and become an active learner.   3. Actively participate in Ch...

Learn how to write a good diary

   A diary, as the name suggests, is a record of what you did, saw, and thought during the day. A day brings many events, many people, and many thoughts; these need to be selected and recorded.   First, learn to select material .   What to write? Consider whether these events or thoughts are worth recording, that is, how much they affect you. If they do affect you, whether it's joy or sorrow, happiness or sadness, it can be put into words. The quantity doesn't need to be large; one or two events, one or two feelings are enough.   Second, organize your thoughts and put them into words .   After selecting your material, how do you write? Don't write a diary like a rambling account.   First, choose a genre. Narrative, argumentative, a reflection, a description, a travelogue, or something else—it depends on the content. If you brought home a puppy today, you can choose to write about it or describe it; if you went on an autumn outing, you can write a travelogue, etc.    Second,...

The terrifying sense of scarcity

   Scarcity breeds an obsessive pursuit of something, leading to shortsightedness and ultimately trapping us in an absurd and terrifying cycle. Moreover, scarcity is a universal human psychological phenomenon, preventing us from enjoying life and reducing our sense of happiness.   For example, the poor constantly feel they lack money; they entrust their entire life's financial plans for marriage, family, and retirement to this moment, always feeling they have no money. However, ignoring the liquidity of money, if we use time as the coordinate axis, your thoughts and actions as the function, and net income as the vertical axis, it's clear that to achieve good results, you can't ignore the function graph and only focus on the coordinate system, right? The key is to have an exponential growth mindset. Even if we have money, we still don't know how to steepen this straight line parallel to the x-axis.   Indeed, some people possess the mindset of working with functions; they...