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Don't compromise because you're embarrassed.

   On a text-based website, I heard a radio program about not being so kind to others that you forget yourself. I can't describe the content of the program, but I understood the meaning: don't be so kind to others that you forget yourself. Of course, what I want to describe in this article is not entirely that meaning. What I want to say is, don't accept what others want to express to you just because you feel embarrassed or awkward.

  In fact, similar things often happen to me and my friends. A friend borrowed something very important from me, and because I felt awkward refusing, I agreed, only to find it very inconvenient in my life later. Another friend felt awkward refusing her family's arrangements, and in the end, she was very unhappy and even got scolded by her family.

  Thinking back, I used to be like that too, often unable to refuse others' requests because I felt awkward, which often led to unpleasant situations and made me very unhappy.

  The reason I wanted to write this article today is because a good friend confided in me about her worries, but what exactly those worries were, I think everyone has some secrets they can't tell, so I'm sorry I can't say them out loud.

  Everyone has a selfish side. I think that overly selfless people are often taken advantage of. I believe that when faced with things we don't want to do, we should learn to bravely say "no" and refuse. Blindly compromising often leads to regret later on.

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