To understand people's hearts, read Guiguzi!

 　　Both men and women hope their girlfriends or boyfriends are understanding.

　　A woman's gentleness, thoughtfulness, and understanding make a man feel relaxed, like the warmth of home.

　　Similarly, a man's thoughtfulness and understanding make a woman feel warm, like basking in the winter sun.

　　Hopes are high, but reality is harsh.

　　We always hope others are understanding, but we don't demand of ourselves to put ourselves in others' shoes and learn to be considerate.

　　What does it mean to be understanding?

　　It means putting yourself in someone else's shoes, thinking from their perspective or situation, understanding their difficulties, forgiving their mistakes, and encouraging them to face things positively.

　　Unfortunately, being truly understanding is very difficult.

　　Because of habitual thinking, people always believe that what they say is right, what they hear is true, and what they see is true.

　　Misunderstandings in communication mostly stem from a lack of mutual understanding.

　　Precisely because being understanding is difficult, we should learn to change.

　　To understand others, one must first understand their hearts.

　　Hearing that one must understand their hearts seems too difficult.

　　Haha, if you find it difficult, it's because you haven't read Guiguzi yet.

　　Even if you haven't read Guiguzi, it's okay. Let Guiguzi teach us the three great skills for understanding people's hearts.

　　With perseverance, nothing is difficult.

　　The first skill, Guiguzi said: "Based on their words, listen to their expressions."

　　What does this mean?

　　Simply put, it's four words: listen attentively.

　　How to listen?

　　To elaborate, when the other person speaks, don't rush to respond. Instead, follow their words to understand why they say what they mean and what they are trying to express.

　　To accurately understand what the other person is trying to express, you need to listen attentively to every word they say.

　　Only by understanding can communication be smooth.

　　Learning to listen is the first step to understanding people's hearts.

　　(Based on their words, listen to their expressions. From *Guiguzi*, Chapter Two: Response)

　　The second skill, Guiguzi said: "Hear the sound and harmonize. "

　　Some versions say: "Hear the sound and know the friend."

　　This means learning to respond when the other person speaks.

　　Talk about their interests and hobbies; if you share similar interests, your words will resonate with them and they will consider you a confidant.

　　(Hearing the voice and the tone. From *Guiguzi*, Chapter 8)

　　The third strategy, Guiguzi said: "When speaking, the listener must agree with the sentiment."

　　Why do others like to listen to what you say?

　　Because it agrees with the sentiment.

　　What does that mean?

　　It means that what you say completely aligns with the other person's true feelings.

　　Because your hearts resonate with theirs, what people often call mutual understanding, the other person will listen to what you say.

　　(When speaking, the listener must agree with the sentiment. From *Guiguzi*, Chapter 8)

　　In communication, learning to put yourself in others' shoes, learning to listen, and learning to think before you speak will be a pleasant journey, yielding not only beautiful scenery along the way, but also great success and happiness.