My mood was a bit gloomy when I happened to see a blog post about long-distance relationships. It almost brought tears to my eyes; every word was heartbreaking. All I want to say is, long-distance relationships aren't something just any couple can bravely choose. You won't know how difficult a long-distance relationship is until you experience it.
What does a long-distance relationship mean?
A great movie is showing, but you can't come to see it with me until it's over.
I buy beautiful clothes, but I can't show them to the person I most want to show them to. I can only take pictures and send them to you, and I know without even guessing that you'll reply with the same old "You look good." What more can clumsy guys ask for?
Text messages don't convey your tone; phone calls don't show your expression.
Before exams, I have to go to the library alone to save a seat and study. When it rains, I have to hold my own umbrella.
On weekends, my roommates dress up beautifully and go out on dates. You can only stay in bed playing computer games, waiting for him to wake up after playing games all night and call you.
You feel wronged and say you're okay. And he actually believes you're okay.
When you're not feeling well, all he can say in his anxiety is, "Rest early, drink more hot water." You cry with frustration, your only thought being to see him.
But even when you cry, you can only wipe it away yourself.
When you argue and he turns off his phone, you panic because for you, your only connection is that phone. That pale 11-digit number
. Every day, you can only say to your phone: "I love you, I miss you, I'm waiting for you."
You flip through photos again and again. You read text messages again and again. You try to recall the beauty of your last meeting, and dream of the sweetness of your next meeting
. You see different people and different scenery. The weather is nice here. How is it where you are? It's
raining. Are you getting wet?
At a class reunion, you're wondering if he's drunk. You clutch your phone, wishing you could fly to the other end. Even a few minutes' delay in replying to a text becomes a worry.
Are the flowers and grass around me like the birds and butterflies around you?
Has any girl said, "Hi, I like you"? And you're wavering between two girls' hearts, weighing and weighing again.
Long-distance relationships are truly difficult.
For a girl, it's a test of loneliness. She spends her days eating with friends or by herself, after class, shopping.
No boy is there to pamper and spoil her. The only
thing that keeps her company each day is a phone call. The only thing that sustains them is love.
Because of love, they aren't afraid of loneliness. They wholeheartedly protect that relationship.
Because of love, they reject the advances of other men. They know that choosing someone close to them means no more suffering. They know they'll be pampered.
At least someone will watch the latest movie with them. At least someone will pick them up with an umbrella when it rains. At least someone will hand them a bottle of milk and look at them with concern when they're busy studying. At least someone will be there for them when they're sick.
But they reject it all.
They reject the favors of everyone around them, just for an uncertain future with you. If you're
going to get married, try a long-distance relationship first.
Only true love can withstand this loneliness, and only love that can withstand loneliness can last.
If you love her, forgive this silly girl alone in a different city. Her capriciousness, her suspicions, her occasional temper tantrums are all because she lacks security.
But she still chooses to stay with you. Simply because she loves you.
This kind of love is something a girl who simply pursues material things can never give you.
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